Hope everyone is all tucked in and snug this evening..Here in Ohio and especially on the Island the winds are brisk 35 mph trying to whip up another storm. Crisp & cold here....All though I love the sound of the wind coming across the Lake ...and the beautiful moon glowing..... I hate the thought of winter coming soon and the weather out there tonight is a huge remainder it isn't far off....
Friday is my last day working on the island and boy am I ever happy about that.
I'll miss the good money and all my good Friends but I surely won't miss all the hard work cleaning...
Time to pack it all up Saturday morning and go South for the winter...
Looking forward to creating in my shop and spending more time blogging with everyone here over the cold months of winter.
Which brings me to the title of my post....
Since I've joined the blog community I've met so many great people. Although I have not met most of you in person I feel a kindred spirit with so many of you...reading your post daily and sharing thoughts and comments with you has made my life so much fuller.
So generally I'm not one to comment or complain about others here in blog land who seem to relish in negative immature behavior. I figure its generally not worth the time. It's easier to just delete those bloggers and forget they exist.
As I was reading blogs I come across a blog who's main focus was name calling and slander of another blogger. Although no name was mentioned the Public name calling & slander of another person simply isn't appropriate behavior.
It is with a Heavy heart that I tell you that I know for a FACT that the slander was Unjustified.
As for name calling, Kids call there piers names but name calling coming from an adult is beyond inappropriate.
Many of you have shared at one point or another that someone has been less then kind to you and how much it hurt you that they could be so openly dishonest, unkind and disrespectful to a fellow blogger...
Sadly it happens all the time.. here in Blogland, on Web sites, on Ebay, Etsy, just about anywhere on the net.
The news reports Bullying, name calling & slander going on between teens via the net & texting almost daily. Bullying that goes so far that some kids take there own lives. What a horribly sad way to lose a child.
Everyone at one point or another has wanted to lash out at someone who they feel has done an injustice to them, we're human..... each & everyone of us has felt the urge to find a way to justify the anger or hurt we have received from another person... Myself included...
Sure it may make us feel better at the time but what about in the future?
Sadly it's easy for people to sit at a computer, where no one can see them and type out words that hurt others. Never considering how hurting one person trickles down the line to hurt, disrespect, or humiliate others.
What do they care? Sometimes they are faceless, sometimes everyone knows there face.
Sometimes they're justified in expressing there feelings and sometimes they aren't justified at all.
Either way is posting a blog with Name Calling & Slandering another person an appropriate way to handle any situation? I personally don't think so!!
What if the reason for the anger felt today that leads a person to slander another person turns out to be a lie, some sort of dishonesty or completely a misunderstanding, misconception or miscommunication..?
What about how the actions of one person affects others who may or may not be party to the situation?
When people are involved in these kinds of actions on the net it is different then being involved face to face, one on one.
On the net and especially in blogland One person or 1000's of people may read the words of someone who is upset and posting negatively towards another person.
There is every possibility that those people/readers form an opinion towards the person being called names & slandered not ever knowing the TRUE FACTS of the situation. Simply taking the person doing the name calling & slandering another at face value.
There is ALWAYS TWO sides of a situation....for every action there is a reaction!!
Maybe it doesn't matter to you if you know both sides of a situation that brought on the name calling & slander of another or maybe it does matter.
I take honesty very seriously so It matters very much to me..
The greatest sadness in situations such as this is its nearly impossible to know who is being honest and who is being dishonest. Never knowing the truth or how many will be hurt by one persons choice to publicly slander another on the Internet.
We all want to think that we know the people we share our lives with here in blogland.
We want to believe that people are kind, Caring, Giving, Understanding and above all Honest.
Those are the very reasons we openly share our daily lives with each other.
Its where we find comfort in the friendships we make with our fellow bloggers.
Its where we can feel free to exchange ideas, exchange & share our accomplishments and even our failures..
Its one thing to complain if we feel wronged in some way..but its totally inappropriate to call someone names and slander them publicly.
After reading this Blog and thinking about it, I wondered if others ever give any thought to how this type of inappropriate behavior affects others..Its easy to quickly post a comment telling the person doing the name calling & slandering someone, how sorry you are that they are having to deal with this person who made them so angry..
Myself included...but knowing the facts of both sides of this situation lent me to think outside the box and ask myself if this kind of behavior is appropriate for one & is it acceptable especially in a public blog post...
My answer was No...
All I could think was..... complain & grumble if you must, but don't stoop to childish name calling & slandering another person publicly...Simply put it isn't appropriate behavior. Try to work it out privately & if you can't then let it go.
My opinion is just that.... my opinion. Yours may be totally different.
Either way its worth thinking about how this sort of behavior affects each and everyone of us..
Do you ever consider that the things you read may not always be as they appear to be especially when it comes to someone slandering another person?
Do you ever consider the truth being left out in public name calling & slander you read?
Do you ever take time to Consider there is ALWAYS TWO SIDES to a given situation?
Keeping in mind you are only being exposed to one side, the side doing the name calling and slandering!
Do you ever Consider how public name calling & slander affects others & how many people can be hurt by public name calling & slander?
Then when its all said and done and you've given some thought to those considerations ask yourself if this is the kind of behavior you want to see in Blog land or anywhere else on the net.
There is to much Ugliness & Unkindness in the world already....
The last place I want to find it is in blogland.....how about you?
Until we meet again may your Days be filled with Happy moments..
Hugs & Blessings